You Can't Help Someone Who Doesn't Want To Be Helped

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This old gal…

Was looking through photos…came across some…of that mother of mine…

Young her…vibrant her…beautiful her…a twinkle in her eye…the big broad smile…she was stunning really…

But that switch would flip…those eyes would change…and the mother we knew…was gone…taken over…by something else…

Don’t know what it was…don’t know who…it was…

Went through treatments…various diagnosis…but the bottom line was…she never owned it…not really…it was all…about blame…

Someone else’s fault…parents…siblings…coworkers…in-laws…and would often undermine treatment…because…it seemed…a certain sense of thrill…came…with the drama…

As hard as it was…for a short amount of time…mama me…had to let go…and focus…on those babies of hers…

Because sometimes in life…you can’t help someone…who doesn’t want…to be helped…and sometimes in life…it’s ok…to step back…and finally…put yourself…first…
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And this husband of mine…agrees…